Internet Infidelity

In today's society with all things online it makes it harder and harder to have hard and firm relationship boundaries. If the act doesn't involve physical contact is it still cheating? Apparently, according to some, having an online relationship is having an "emotional affair". I think I believe that to some degree. Unless the topic of online play has been discussed in a relationship it can definitely feel like betrayal. Especially when the "other woman" knows of your existance and does everything in her power to entice online. Or what about the significant other that turns every innocent conversation with a member of the opposite sex into something sexual? For example, telling her how hot she is, would she ever consider having sex with him, what kinds of sex does she like, etc.

I personally find it all so damn frustrating. Over and over I see married men trolling online for play. Why not play online with their wife? Send her a naughty email or start up a raunchy IM conversation. If one of you doesn't have access to the internet during the day give her a quickie style phone call or send a naughty text message. Or maybe it is the thrill of the chase that he's missing. Maybe he's just looking for someone to feed his ego. I really don't know.

The hard part for me personally is that I met Cabana Boy online. Our relationship started out as meaningless online play. Then we moved to phone calls and naughty IM's. Then we met and the rest is history. In the beginning of my fun with Cabana Boy I had no intention of EVER meeting him in person. He wasn't my type. Honestly, his picture on myspace frightened me a bit. Then as I got to know him I started to fall for his charm. The one day after two weeks of asking me to fuck him in his piercing room he decides that our first time needs to be more special since he is developing feelings for me. And there I was meeting a guy I swore I would never meet cause it was just "fun". And that right there is what makes me nervous about him "playing around online". Because I know that despite the best intentions that something real can develop in the cyber world. I know that not only did I meet Cabana Boy online, but I have also forged friendships online that have lead to life long relationships. I've traveled thousands of miles to meet someone that I had only ever typed to before. So don't ask me not to be upset about things said online. I KNOW they have meaning behind them. Don't ask me to turn the other cheek when you flirt with every girl that isn't me online. Don't ask me not to worry when the only girls you look at online are the ones that I'm not. And don't treat me like I'm overreacting because you and I both know that things said online can sometimes come true.