A little help from a friend.....

Somehow my friend Sexy Stud Muffin and I came upon the topic of sex. One of the many benefits to having friends of the opposite sex is being able to have an honest conversation about sex without feeling insecure or jealous. *Conversation has been edited to remove personal content not relevent to this blog.

Me: cause I am a good girl and good girls don’t take it in the ass
Sexy Stud Muffin: God, girls are so reserved....
Sexy Stud Muffin: I'm seeing a girl right now down here that has been with the same guy for the last 7 years up until about a month ago
Sexy Stud Muffin: she is the same way.
Me: yeah my rule is if you want to do something to me I get to do it to you first
Me: cause it's not fair to expect me to do something that you yourself wouldn't do
Sexy Stud Muffin: I hear ya... totally crazy way to think about it, but I see what you mean
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: This girl and I just got it on for the first time the night before last....
Sexy Stud Muffin: Her and I haven't explored anything together yet.
Sexy Stud Muffin: But you can damn well bet we will.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Shit, our sex was great though!!!
Me: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: so needless to say.... she came 6 times in 45 minutes.
Me: DAMN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sexy Stud Muffin: Yea... I’m a stud...
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: Yea... and yes I know for a fact that she came... she wasn't faking it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: I know what I'm doin when It comes to pleasing a woman.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Don't mean to brag about it though.
Me: so what is your method?
Sexy Stud Muffin: No method per say... I just know how to fuck....
Sexy Stud Muffin: as long as I am sober mind you... and even if I’m not, I'm still good do go.
Me: knowing how to fuck is good, but there are very few women that can have an orgasm just from penetration
Sexy Stud Muffin: Oh, I totally know that.
Sexy Stud Muffin: when I was younger, an older woman had a sex talk with me... she told me how to please a woman.
Me: well that had to be useful
Sexy Stud Muffin: She told me it was important to know how to please a woman..... and to not think that what I see in a porn movie is how it is done.
Sexy Stud Muffin: So, I learned from a lesbian... I'm still learning though. This one girl I was seeing for a minute is Bi, so she showed me a few things too
Me: well that's cool you got pointers
Me: cause most girls are way too self-conscious to ask for what they want
Me: or try something new
Sexy Stud Muffin: Yea, I know... luckily I've been with a few that had no problem telling me what they wanted.
Sexy Stud Muffin: It also helps that I have the magical ability to control when I come
Sexy Stud Muffin: or if I do, I can keep going... and going... and going....
Me: DAMN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: =P~
Me: lol
Sexy Stud Muffin: hehe..... I've gone for hours... many times.... like all day long fucking sessions.
Me: well I dunno about that long
Me: lol
Me: the kitty does get tired after awhile
Sexy Stud Muffin: If the girl wants it, I can give it to her.
Sexy Stud Muffin: But I know what you mean.
Me: yeah I am just now finding the courage to speak up
Me: so I still have a lot of reservations about a lot of stuff
Sexy Stud Muffin: Definitely do it... you won't regret it. But the same goes both ways too... when you start telling him how to do things, at some point, he will tell you what he wants.
Sexy Stud Muffin: When It comes to sex, I have few reservations about it. Only a few things I won't do...
Me: such as.....
Sexy Stud Muffin: Well, nothing super nasty... and I am not at all into receiving any kind of anal play.... Just the extreme nasty shit....
Me: now see.... that's kinda fucked up
Sexy Stud Muffin: Why is that fucked up? Have you ever received anal before?
Me: cause you want to be playing with your girl's ass and she can't play back
Me: that's not fair
Me: and no my bootie is still untouched LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: Well, at the point you get it in the ass... you will love it. I've never met a girl that took it in the ass and didn’t love it. They just need to get over it being "taboo"
Sexy Stud Muffin: I guarantee it.
Me: yeah boyfriend really wants to pop that cherry
Me: he may be waiting awhile though
Me: lol
Sexy Stud Muffin: Every girl I've ever met totally loves it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: I think it feels different for a girl than it does for a guy.
Sexy Stud Muffin: not sure though....
Sexy Stud Muffin: even though a guys G spot is in his ass.
Me: the male gspot is in your ass ya know
Sexy Stud Muffin: go figure
Sexy Stud Muffin: I know
Me: lol
Me: jinx
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: But there are other ways to hit a guys g spot without having to touch his ass.
Me: true
Me: but some guys freak about that too
Me: no touching the taint
Me: lol
Sexy Stud Muffin: Yea... but it's a little less invasive. Try it on him next time you are giving him head.
Sexy Stud Muffin: start giving him really good head, and I bet he wouldn't even notice
Me: so what constitutes really good head?
Sexy Stud Muffin: The biggest thing is to use your hand....
Sexy Stud Muffin: the combination of the hand and your mouth.... oh yea....
Sexy Stud Muffin: lots of spit
Me: how much attention do the boys need?
Sexy Stud Muffin: um... if you are trying to get him off that way... kinda depends.
Sexy Stud Muffin: some guys can't even get off that way.
Sexy Stud Muffin: using your hand at the same time will definitely help.... how bad is your gag reflex?
Me: I have some good head stuff that curbs the gag reflex
Sexy Stud Muffin: There you go.... that or if he isn't that big for it to be a concern... but use your hand, and periodically, push your head all the way down as far as you can....
Sexy Stud Muffin: another good thing.
Sexy Stud Muffin: It's funny that we are having this conversation... as you can tell, I'm not modest when it comes to this shit.
Me: excellent
Sexy Stud Muffin: Any other questions or advice you want since we're on the topic?
Me: tell me how to please my man oh wise one
Me: seriously
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL
Me: what do guys want in the sack?
Sexy Stud Muffin: That also depends on the guy... now this isn't speaking for all guys, but a lot of them like it rough.
Sexy Stud Muffin: More of a fucking than "lets make love"
Sexy Stud Muffin: For me, sex that is geared more towards fucking is a lot more fun.
Sexy Stud Muffin: but it's not always the case... depends on the mood too.
Me: favorite postion?
Sexy Stud Muffin: having a girl ride is fun... after a guy has been pumping and doing all the work, switch it up, and you do some of the work.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Gotta let the guy rest.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Doggie is another favorite...
Sexy Stud Muffin: lots of wet slobbery kissing is a plus....
Sexy Stud Muffin: let him pull your hair while doin doggie... some ass slapping.
Me: what's the worst thing a girl can do in bed?
Sexy Stud Muffin: the worse thing??
Sexy Stud Muffin: never laugh!
Sexy Stud Muffin: no matter how innocent
Sexy Stud Muffin: unless it is because of something funny that both of you guys are laughing about.
Me: how would you handle a potential embarrassing situation for a girl?
Sexy Stud Muffin: How do I word this....
Me: seeing as how most girls are afraid of doing something that would potentially make you never want to have sex with them again
Sexy Stud Muffin: For me, many embarrassing things have happened for a girl, but lets admit it, the whole sex thing in general is somewhat nasty as it is....
Me: true when you break it down
Sexy Stud Muffin: so doin a girl doggie, they get a lot of air in them, so when they move, all that air comes out.
Sexy Stud Muffin: I have experienced that many times... I've never really paid much attention to it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: not something you can really help.
Me: ignoring it is good
Sexy Stud Muffin: and hopefully the guy knows that. Most guys that have had any kind of sex life knows the same, and knows to not laugh or make any kind of big deal about it.
Me: what could happen that would really gross you out or turn you off?
Sexy Stud Muffin: hehe...
Sexy Stud Muffin: again, that would depend on the guy... for me personally? I've had girls come all over my face, and they lick it off me... some guys would be grossed out about that...
Sexy Stud Muffin: you know.. the girls that can actually squirt?
Me: I've heard all about the gushing
Sexy Stud Muffin: From what I hear around... not to much would gross a guy out.
Me: although I've yet to have a guy that can make that happen
Sexy Stud Muffin: Well, only some girls can actually do it. But I'm talking about spraying out gushing.
Sexy Stud Muffin: not just super wet
Sexy Stud Muffin: Scared the shit out of me the first time it happened to me... but my god was it hot!!!
Me: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: As far as "gross" things happening, hopefully the guy you are with isn't an immature person.. if he is, then he's going to act like a jackass about it....
Sexy Stud Muffin: if something happens, and it is a concern... try to just play it off, like you meant to do it. Or you just ignore it, and keep going.
Me: good advice
Me: anything girls don't do that they should do more of?
Sexy Stud Muffin: Tell the guy what they want.
Sexy Stud Muffin: I'm telling you.. if you tell him to do what you want right in the heat of passion, it's on. It makes it easier to tell the guy right when you're in the middle of it... instead of sitting down talking about it
Sexy Stud Muffin: when he is doing you doggy, tell him to pull your hair... smack your ass etc...
Sexy Stud Muffin: if anything, it'll excite him more.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Teasing is fun too... another one to try.
Sexy Stud Muffin: tease the guy till he feels like his nuts are about to fall off....
Sexy Stud Muffin: then tear him up.... but with that, expect him to not last a super long time.
Me: so in your opinion how can a guy make a girl feel more comfortable to be able to let loose?
Sexy Stud Muffin: My way to do that is to do lots of sweet, soft, yet arousing touching and kissing...
Sexy Stud Muffin: I'd act like I was going to kiss the girl... kind of back up and smile... lick their lips...
Sexy Stud Muffin: grab the back of their head and kiss them lots...
Sexy Stud Muffin: good to kiss and lick their neck and ears...
Sexy Stud Muffin: yea, by then it's on.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Gentle touching is the key.
Me: I agree with all that
Sexy Stud Muffin: And depending on how long you have been with the person, or if it is a fuck buddy, or a one night thing... whisper stuff into her ear...
Sexy Stud Muffin: oh, and during the licking of the neck and hear, breath... especially into thier ear...
Sexy Stud Muffin: Shit... a lot of this shit is shit that turns me on!!
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL
Me: lol
Sexy Stud Muffin: But it seems to work for the women too
Me: funny how a lot of that stuff works both ways
Me: unlike your ass
Sexy Stud Muffin: True dat...
Sexy Stud Muffin: AND TRUE DAT!
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: Yea, steer clear of that one.
Sexy Stud Muffin: But like I said... try the other thing while you're giving him head.
Sexy Stud Muffin: I've had that done to me, and I barely noticed what was going on...
Sexy Stud Muffin: but it sure felt good!!
Me: so how do you make a girl want to pop her bootie cherry?
Sexy Stud Muffin: The guy has to has to HAS TO be gentle about it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Simple... a guys asks.... she says no, or maybe another time... guy has to respect that.
Sexy Stud Muffin: A lot of times, it is never even asked.... when a guy is doing a girl doggy... a lot of times some touching takes place... then before you know it.. there is a finger in the booty...
Sexy Stud Muffin: that's the first step... to play with it... get the girl used to having that area even touched.
Sexy Stud Muffin: so just start off with playing with it...
Sexy Stud Muffin: open communication about this one is pretty damn necessary... especially if the girl has never received before....
Sexy Stud Muffin: using fingers to loosen is a must too
Sexy Stud Muffin: that muscle expands and contract....
Sexy Stud Muffin: therefore, loosening is required as well as the girl relaxing.
Sexy Stud Muffin: good rule of thumb for the guy... when it happens, hold yourself in there without moving for a minute.... no pumping or anything.... just sit there... once it's a little looser, then go for it.. but be gentle.
Me: so what was your best sexual experience?
Sexy Stud Muffin: Oh man... you sure you wanna hear this one?
Me: yup
Sexy Stud Muffin: My best sexual experience was this girl I dated for a little over a month...
Sexy Stud Muffin: She was one of the few girls that liked it nice and rough.... really rough.
Sexy Stud Muffin: not s&m bondage shit, but she liked to be tossed around
Sexy Stud Muffin: now, not all girls are like her, but he like to have her brains fucked out hard.....
Sexy Stud Muffin: this is the same girl that I've gone hours with
Sexy Stud Muffin: she broke out the monster in me... this girl like to have her hair pulled ass smacked, choked...
Sexy Stud Muffin: you name it, she like it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: one time she actually asked me to smack her while we were going at it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: so I did... she fucking loved it.
Sexy Stud Muffin: right across her face.. open hand of course.
Me: damn
Sexy Stud Muffin: Yea.... it's pretty crazy.. I've never been with a girl like that before.
Sexy Stud Muffin: so anyway
Sexy Stud Muffin: one time, her and I were talking about the sex we have and how fun it was... she told me that it was just getting started...
Sexy Stud Muffin: I asked her what she had in mind... she told me that she was scared about the size of fist I had....
Sexy Stud Muffin: ????"
Sexy Stud Muffin: I'm thinking... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Sexy Stud Muffin: She wanted me to fist her.
Sexy Stud Muffin: NEVER done that before.....
Sexy Stud Muffin: So we were goin at it... I was going down on her....
Sexy Stud Muffin: I drenched my hand in spit, and eased it in...before you know it, my hand all the way up to my wrist was in here.
Sexy Stud Muffin: that was probably my craziest sexual experience.
Sexy Stud Muffin: that night we fucked for about 4 hours... I came probably 4-5 times...
Sexy Stud Muffin: she did the same
Sexy Stud Muffin: Again, very few girls are like that.
Me: I would say a lot of girls might like that but never ask for it
Me: pain that is
Me: not fisting
Me: lol
Sexy Stud Muffin: I think you are probably right.
Sexy Stud Muffin: Well, after that girl... I started exploring it with other girls... not to that extreme, but the choking and hard hair pulling and stuff
Me: hair pulling is fabulous
Sexy Stud Muffin: it is isn't it? Even for the puller....
Me: there's just something about that show of dominanace
Me: mmmm mmmmmm
Sexy Stud Muffin: the dominance thing goes both ways though
Sexy Stud Muffin: I've had girls "dominate" me...
Sexy Stud Muffin: and that's a lot of fun too.
Me: what haven’t you done that you want to?
Sexy Stud Muffin: LOL.... what HAVEN'T I've done?
Sexy Stud Muffin: You'll have to actually give me some ideas.... I can't think of anything really crazy that I haven't already done.
Me: sex in public?
Me: sex for an audience?
Me: sex on film?
Sexy Stud Muffin: I've done all of those....
Me: orgy?
Sexy Stud Muffin: small orgy... 5 people....
Sexy Stud Muffin: I'm telling you.. sex for me is like... getting tattooed or something... it isn't something I'm reserved with.
Sexy Stud Muffin: it's more like an extra curricular activity...
Me: LOL
Sexy Stud Muffin: Sex in public is fun... The thrill of getting caught... or getting caught can be just as fun!! :)
Sexy Stud Muffin: I love to take pictures of girls that I'm having sex with... or making videos' (with their permission of course)
Sexy Stud Muffin: Not sure what the deal is, but it is a blast!
Me: do you have any fetishes?
Sexy Stud Muffin: Shit... if anything, the whole ass thing... I like to fuck a girl in the ass... it almost falls under the whole dominance thing... since not many girls do it, to be able to is almost like a control thing... plus not to mention it feels WONDERFUL
Sexy Stud Muffin: That and the dominance thing... being rough...
Sexy Stud Muffin: Alright.... I gotta get goin sweetie....
Me: thanks for being my guinea pig darlin
Me: I'll blog tonight and you can read all about you tomorrow
Me: lol
Sexy Stud Muffin: Sweet.. you're welcome.
Me: see ya laterz
Sexy Stud Muffin: Later sweet tits.